Envy or Desire? What is it Really?

The other day, I was speaking with a co-worker (I work in a school system during the day), and we got on to the subject of envy.  You see, she is one of those people everyone admires.  She can be a powerhouse and I envy her for her ability to keep her home beautiful, and for her amazing garden designs (she is a master gardener).  Sometimes, the envy is so strong, I start to feel bad about myself.

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New England Garden

Now my home is  what you would call  “lived in”,  and my gardens have some weeds–only some of the hardiest flowers survive.  Don’t get me wrong, my house is presentable, it is just not the presentation that her home is.

My friend finds this to be natural for her, and she did not seem to understand why this would be difficult for me.

On the other hand, she told me that she envied  me!  She wished she could make jewelry out of stones and glass (she is one of my best customers) and would give anything to have that ability—and she told me that she feels bad about herself for not having that ability.

I have always believed that you can do what ever you desire!  I couldn’t understand why she couldn’t take some  metals classes and learn about jewelry making.

Well–of course she could take classes and learn to make jewelry.  And I could take classes and become a master gardener, if these are things we really DESIRED…  So what is Desire????

RoseQ1The question is-do we use the word envy and desire interchangeably?   Is it enough to desire something or do we really need PASSION to go along with the desire.  

I firmly believe that we are wired to do different and wonderful things. I also believe we develop strong passions that drive us.   In the case of my co-worker, she is driven and beautifully creative in designing her gardens and the interior decorating of her home.  Her creativity is a passion and feeds her need and desire to have a beautiful environment which she tells me is very important to her.   Her gardens are a work of art and nature.

My passion has always been to make and build with my hands, and I have a deep love  and respect for what nature creates.  My desire is to create beauty that people can take and enjoy as they so choose.  My creativity centers on the building of something beautiful–also works of art and nature, yet so very different from home and gardens.  Plus, there simply aren’t enough hours in the day to do all of those things that others do.

So—How are YOU Wired?  And do you envy others for what they can do and you can’t?  Do you have the passion to do something beautiful?  If so, what is it?  Have you ever envied someone, and then followed that person’s passion?  Did you get passionate about something from envy?

And what role does money play in envy or desire?  Does money help with the drive to try something new?  Would money make a difference in the passions you would follow? Would you have less envy with more money?  Or do you envy those who live a simple life with less?   I would love to hear from you about what your thoughts are!  I welcome your comments

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Do You Choose the Stone or Does the Stone Choose You?

How to Choose the Right Stone or Crystal for You!  stones

So you have decided you love stones–perhaps you love some of the colors and patterns and see them as works of art.  Or maybe you love the crystals, and the possibilities they have to help you with your mood, to heal, or to feel good.  Some of you might just love to hold and feel a tumbled stone, experiencing the warmth or coolness of that stone.

Throughout time, many cultures have used stones in many ways to enhance their lives, through home décor (stone countertops), art (sculpture), Medical healing (metaphysical) and for jewelry (from beads, to cabochons, to faceted stones).

Serape3 Some folks love to collect them–learning all the names of the different stones, and a fascination on how they are created by Mother Nature.

In today’s blog, I want to concentrate on the fun reasons you might use stones, and how you would choose a stone for your everyday lives.

I did some research into this, and found many authors who suggest that the best way for you to find out what stones you are drawn to and will work for you is to go to a rock shop, and look around.  What grabs you?  Are you drawn to the colors of the stones?  The feel, the textures, the sparkles, the patterns?Cobalto1

Do some stones “call you?”  Do you somehow feel connected to the earth when you see or hold a particular stone?  Do you prefer the rough natural stone, or one that has been cut and faceted by a lapidary artist?

Most of us will never know why we like certain stones, or why we are drawn to them.  If you talk to the New Age Healers, Metaphysical properties are very real and there is a strong belief that stones will help in healing from physical and emotional illness. If this is of interest to you, there are many guides available on the internet from respected sources to help you.  I am listing some of these links at the end of this post.

If you are drawn to stones because they are beautiful, then you might consider looking at them as pieces of art, either to be sculpted, or to place around your home as a way to feel grounded and part of nature.  Or perhaps you are drawn to the possibility that stones can be worn as an accessory to your wardrobe–as another way of connecting with nature.Chrys2

IMG_1968There is something about a natural stone that just can’t be duplicated.  Perhaps there is a “vibration” as some suggest that reaches out to us humans.  I don’t know–but I DO know that I have always been drawn to their lovliness, and fascinated by the fact that such beauty exists in nature.  And unlike plants, stones don’t die, and almost never go bad.  The fact that they are older than most of us can ever know, and will live on long after we pass is also an indication of how powerful they are…Just think about it!

So how do you select your perfect stone?  One author, Phyllis Galde, in her book Crystal Healing, offers one suggestion that resonates with me:

“Pick a stone by attraction, by being drawn to touch it, and then hold it in the left hand loosely. Let it rest against the palm chakra and notice the impressions, colors, sounds and mood feelings that accompany the stone. No two crystals are the same. They are like snowflakes. Each crystal has its own particular vibration, and each will resonate differently. Look for one that will resonate with your being—regardless of size, shape, color, or jeweler’s quality. It’s the intuitive impression which is important.”

And so I do….

Resources:

Metaphysical and Healing:

http://www.healingcrystals.com

http://www.bestcrystals.com/metaphysical.html

http://meanings.crystalsandjewelry.com/a-to-z-list-of-crystal-meanings/

http://www.crystal-cure.com/gem-healing.html

How Gemstones are formed:

How gemstones are formed

https://www.gemsociety.org/article/gem-formation/

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Giving Up Your Life for Art

Greenonyx3As I sit and contemplate another snow day, my first thought is–Okay!  I have time to “play!” Then I say–“I mean–work!”

You see-I have 2 lives…By day a music therapist in a school system, and by night I am a jewelry artist-

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So what does this work-play mean?  It means spending another day in the studio designing and creating more art.  And for most people, it sounds like a dream–to have the ability to make and create things whenever they want. To have NO supervisor or boss that dictates how your day will go, to not have a critique of your work, to decide what your hours will be and how much time you will spend during your lunch hour.  Sounds great–right?

It would be my fantasy to live this way–to be an artist and to live life the way I want to.  Unfortunately–it is only a fantasy for most artists.  Very few  can command the money for their art that to make a living, and must work at other steady jobs in order to be able to create.

I am fortunate in that I have a creative full time job as a music therapist, another way in which I am able to express myself through art.  And I love my job–helping others use music as a way to express themselves, to learn, to heal, and to develop a sense of self.  But I am also passionately drawn to the solitude of creating my own piece, with my own ideas.

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Working in a school system does allow me the schedule to create jewelry art on the “off” hours, and I use every opportunity to create that is available to me.  This means nights and weekends where I am not out socializing, spending time with neighbors and friends.

I believe this is the story of many artists.  There are so many creative souls out there–yet our society says art is not a priority–it is an “extra” a “frill” and that one must make a living elsewhere.  That art is play, and play is not work.

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Well–Can you imagine a life without the beauty of art?  Music, paintings, sculpture, jewelry, metalwork, textiles, architecture, graphic design–these are all arts!  What is the value of this?  And how many artists have given up their social lives to create for us?

Lynne Patnode makes sterling silver stone jewelry. You can see her creations at SilverSpiral Creations Etsy Shop and you can visit her website at Here

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